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No. 119 – To Be Confident, Start by Acting Confident
Sometimes people take offense about "acting the part," as if doing so means that they are fakes. Anyone who has children knows parenting is a fake-it-til-you-make-it experience. Surely confidence deserves the same pass. Comparable fake-it-till-you-make-it action is also what most enterprises are built on. (By the way, a good time to start your acting is first thing in the morning before your brain figures out what you're doing. Be determined to go through your day feeling undaunted. If at the beginning, the middle, or at the end of the day, you appear scared and timid, you will decrease others' confidence in you at home and in the office.)
One CEO told me, "I still doubt myself every single day. I've had painful situations, times when it was really tough. What people believe is my self-confidence is actually my acting in reaction to fear."
When you decide to be determined, then turn up the juice. Go further, and get into your uncomfort zone. Every success story starts with someone going against popular practice or thinking. Plant a stake in the ground on some position, even if it's not the most popular. If it turns out well, great. If it doesn't, you've still shown conviction.
Do the scary. Face fears. Bad things that might possibly happen are worse in your head than in actuality. Failure will not kill you. It may make you sick for a while, but that is often your own doing in your head, too.